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...disclaimer In no way am I a professional counselor or therapist. I am a recovering addict. The advice I give is from my own experience and in no way do I claim to cure, treat, or diagnose any mental illness or addiction. I suggest to anyone beginning recovery get professional help.

ohdarlingitsjoelle whispered,

I suffer with an eating disorder & severe anxiety, and I just wanted to say I love your blog! It gives me some inspiration on the hard days, like today. Thankyou so much, youre amazing <3

Aw, I am so glad you found this blog helpful! You can overcome anything you put your mind to.

You are absolutely beautiful, keep fighting the good fight 

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Anonymous whispered,

who do scars itch so much?

That’s what happens when they are healing.

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Anonymous whispered,

When did you start to cut/stop? When was your last relapse? What did you do to help you stop?

My self-harming situation was quite unique. I started when I was 13 (which was 11 years ago) and stopped around the age of 16, maybe 17. An ex of mine got me to stop cutting, and then years later he was deported. I was torn in half and grieved as it was his death, fore he didn’t want to leave me. I didn’t know how to cope with those emotions because I never got help for my self-harming. I than turned to hardcore drugs. I may free from cutting for 7 or 8 years but my ‘self-harm’ turned into injecting heroin and other horrible self-sabotage behavior. I am drug free going on 11 months.

I highly suggest that people who have quit self-harm on their own still get professional help. I can’t say every case will be like mine but it’s very possible you won’t know the proper way to cope. When pain comes around again, it’s good to know how to take it out positively. 

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Anonymous whispered,

It's warm. It's honey. It soothes me, it brings me down. It comforts me. It shields me. It's kind, unimaginable, magnificent. It's a blanket to my bare skin. It drops and droops. I surrender. But when it leaves, I'm naked. I'm scared, shy and alone. I retreat. I scamper away to my only hide away; under the sheets. Away from the sun, the world. The people. I mask myself in darkness, surround myself within the darkness. Fall asleep and wait for the next glimmer of some magnificence.  

Very poetic. I guess some of the best poems were written around being masked by darkness, but I wish quite the opposite.

You must seek out magnificence instead of waiting for it to come to you. Never surrender to the pain, it only gives it strength.

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Day 29 - What are some of your favorite recovery blogs or sites?

Bahh too many. Here are my ultimate favorites:

That’s all I can think of right now, might add some more later 
x 30 day recovery challenge

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lessons-of-the-restless-nights whispered,

i think what you're doing is amazing. just wanted to let you know

Thank you so much lovely 

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10 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF BEFORE GIVING UP ON YOUR DREAM

Article from tinybuddha.com

“Commitment in the face of conflict produces character.” ~Unknown

We all face obstacles in pursuing our goals, whether they’re professional or personal.

We think we’re on the right track but realize we’ve chosen the wrong approach. We’re enthusiastic and hard-working, but our support system disintegrates when we need them the most. We’re just about to make significant progress when we run out of time or funding.

Tenacious as we may be, we all have our breaking points—that moment when the potential rewards stop justifying the effort. Usually that’s the hump that separates your best shot and your best reality.

Before you throw in the towel and go back to something safe and far less taxing, ask yourself the following questions:

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(Source: believeinrecovery)

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There is something beautiful about all scars of whatever nature. A scar means the hurt is over, the wound is closed and healed, done with.

Harry Crews (via advice-is-at-hand)-
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Please visit my BOTM, fight-depression!! She’s such a sweetheart and so glad she won. Depression recovery is just as serious as any other type of recovery. Send her some love!!

(Source: believeinrecovery)

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slytherinandcigarettes whispered,

I want to relapse and start cutting again.

I hope you don’t mind but I checked out your blog.. I saw your latest post is about you losing a good friend when you were very young. I’m sorry that has happened to you, eventually we all lose someone that’s important to us. What we can do is honor them, let them live on through us. What would she think about you intentionally hurting yourself?

It’s hard to not control everything that happens to us. But relapsing will do nothing for your situation but make you more depressed. Why not find a positive outlet? Go for a long walk, draw, anything to get out your emotions. What I have learned from losing a close friend, is life is too short to be anything but happy. Be happy for yourself, do it for your friend. I know it’s rough but we cannot change things that have happened, all we can do it move forward. Keep fighting for your happiness. You deserve it 

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eat-2-live whispered,

heyy i feel kind of dumb asking this because I feel like I already know the answer, but I have a lot of scars on my thighs from cutting. I have stopped but I've hid it from my parents for soo long. We're going to the beach next week and my main concern is them seeing them when I'm in a bathing suit. I really wanna just go ahead and tell them beforehand but I am absolutely terrified lol. They don't understand cutting at all. I guess I just wanna know the best way to tell them?

First of all, congrats on finding recovery!
I too am a self-harm survivor with most of my scars also on my thighs. I have been self-harm free for almost 8 years and these scars are still very prominent. I don’t know your situation, but I am only telling you this because they might be something you have to deal with for a very long time.

In my personal opinion, I think you should tell your parents when you are ready to. I do think you should tell them but now you are in a situation where you feel like you are being forced. You must be prepared for the reaction. If you don’t feel like you are ready at this moment, what I always do is where board shorts when I go to the beach. They work for me, they cover my scars and I can swim in them. I am only suggesting this because you shouldn’t be forced to tell them if you are not ready.

If you feel like it’s a ‘now or never’ type of situation, as I said, be prepared for the reaction. They may never heard of self-harm, they may think it’s linked to suicide. They may want to get you some help (which is NOT a bad thing!). They may get angry or upset.. but whatever you do, stay clam. Show them that self-harm is a thing of your past and that you have grown. Print out some facts about self-harming, anything to show them that you are being mature about this situation and have moved on.

Good luck hun and I hope everything works out for you. The most important thing is that you have overcame self-harming. If your parents do want to get you help, take it. Be positive about this situation! 

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Day 28 - What do you feel is your greatest strength?

I didn’t think this would be a tough question, but now that I have to answer, it is.

When I was an addict, my greatest strength was I could lie my way out of another lie. Lies, lies, and more lies.
I would like to think at this point in my life my greatest strength is honesty. There is no reason to lie to anyone anymore. After finally being honest with myself, knowing I am powerless over drugs, I have changed my life forever. It’s the best feeling not having to remember stories I made up or trying to figure out ‘where I was the night before.’ You ask me a question? I’ll tell you the truth. This has helped my relationships grow tremendously. More importantly, being honest has helped me grow into the person I always knew I was.

x 30 day recovery challenge

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Anonymous whispered,

just to remind you that you're an incredibly kind and wonderful person, and you have played a big part in me remaining positive through all of this. I hope you're still going strong, take care. <3

That’s wonderful! If we can’t be positive than what’s the alternative? Dwelling on the past? Something that we cannot change? That’s the most important thing I have learned in recovery. We are not our mistakes or the things that have happened.. only if we let them define us. We create our destiny!

Thank you for the message, what a great way to start the day! 

» time 1 week ago